A mother of a child with ADHD

Bringing my baby home completed our family as 4, seven years ago!  I had it all!  I was so excited to watch Chels and KJ grow up together and be best friends forever!  Once KJ started walking the game was on!  She soon learned she could climb.  After the first 4 years of trying to figure out this little bundle of joy, we felt that there my be something more to her that we wasn't sure how to handle.  "She is just a strong willed child." Some would say.  But after her first year of school we found out that maybe there was something even more.  Not good parents.. yep had that one told to us too!  So for two years we tried everything to help correct her behavior.  Still nothing.. nope nada!! We held her back in first grade because she was the youngest of the class and we wanted to get her tested to see if we were really bad parents or if there was something wrong with our little KJ, that we could help fix!  First week of first grade for the second time we did find out she had ADHD.  You think that I would of been happy, to know that I wasn't a bad parent after all.. Nope I set in that DR's office and cried like a baby, because for 6 years she has had this and I looked back at all the different kinds of punishments we tried and none of that mattered.  And to think about being in her little head for that long and her not even understanding crushed me. So where are we today?? Well, we are trying to re-learn punishments, (momma, daddy, and KJ)  Because we have tried so many different ones before, so we are all re-learning what works best for KJ.  Mornings are our hardest times, throughout the day.  But this, we will learn how to fix!  We are working on the girls fighting.. which I know every sister does, but it isn't acceptable and it needs to be toned down. So I will be blogging about our road with ADHD a lot as this is a part of our lives.  I have a close friends who's son was diagnosed the same month, as KJ, who is a year younger, and so it has been so nice to share momma talk back and forth with her!